Just like Princess Elsa sings in Frozen….Let it Go! That became a rallying cry for young girls everywhere as they watched the Disney movie these past few years. Thank you Disney for teaching our children this lesson that most of us are in dire need of.
In the past few weeks (well maybe months) I have thought about, worked on, and wrote about self care, self love and finding peace. I have been mostly successful in carrying this out in my own life as I have been shaking things up all over the place. However, at least once per day I have to let it go – all over again.
At some point in the day the self doubt and looking back on the mistakes of the past creeps in. I am human. So, I have to keep letting it go. Why does that surprise us? We don’t brush our teeth once the whole week and assume that all is in order. We shower every day. We don’t assume that because we did that yesterday something stinky isn’t going to come up for us. So why are we so hard on ourselves when the emotional care needs to be revisited? Why do we not see that self care is a practice just like brushing our teeth and taking a shower?
If you are struggling with anything you need to keep letting it go. One day sadness may come up for you. The next day anger over the situation may come up. That’s reality. So here are a few steps to letting go of the old shit (or people we needed to distance ourselves from) on a daily basis:
1 – Wake up and journal about what you want. Start the day with thoughts about what you want for today and the days ahead. I start each day with writing down my hopes and dreams – BEFORE I READ MY EMAIL! Or check Facebook or Instagram…etc.
2 – Do at least one nice thing for yourself each day. Some days are busier than others. We have work and families and worries galore. Some days for me it’s a manicure and pedicure. Others it’s a pole dance class. Some day it’s the gym. If I am short on time it’s a really quick run. A facial mask and at home beauty regimen works well too. Hell…if all else fails take a bubble bath or an extra long shower alone! I remember when my kids were babies just looking forward to that morning shower with no one around!
3 – Send love and forgiveness to those who have wronged you. That does not mean we let them in our space to hurt us again. It does not mean we talk to them. It is just letting go of resentment. If we hold onto those bad feelings it will infect us in the future. There is nothing wrong with silently wishing someone well and moving on. It is very liberating!
4 – Forgive yourself for mistakes of the past. This may be the hardest task. We are harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else. We may make excuses for the person that hurt us but never for ourselves. We beat ourselves up for the past. Silently or out loud for that matter forgive yourself. One simple quote always reminds me of why we need to let that go and it shifts my vision in a heartbeat.
“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.”
5 – Take time to have gratitude for what you have in this moment. Letting go of the past is important. Making plans for a better tomorrow is important. Don’t forget to be grateful for all of today’s blessings. If you are feeling particularly down write down 10 things you are grateful for today. We can all think of something. They can be big or little. Stop and focus on the good things you have today.
Just remember to be a good friend to yourself. If you are struggling with any or all of the above try following my routines. A journal and a pen may be your best tool today. Putting pen to paper to dream or count your blessings will definitely shift today’s focus – even if it’s just for a few moments in time. Enjoy this beautiful day!
Sending love and light!